Talking shit behind others backs doesn't resolve any conflicts or make any situation better. Ever. If you have a problem, have the damn balls to show face and tell someone what your deal is. I'm sick of shit getting back to me from people that I thought I was cool with, or even, people I might not necessarily be good friends with, but don't feel like I've harmed in any way.
Going by what others tell you is a retarded way of judging, especially when the other person acts like a damn victim about every shit thing that they did wrong and twist to make it like they were at 0% fault.
Yes this is a very angry post, but hey, I'm a very angry person today. And like I said, I'm sick of shit coming back to me from people, when I try as much as I can to be as honest and genuine as I can be, only to hear that people call me names or talk about me like I FORCE EVERY FUCKING MALE IN MY VICINITY TO ZOMG FALL TO MY EVIL CONNIVING WAYS.
Reality check > you can't force anybody to do anything. If someone happens to LIKE the fact that I don't bullshit, that's not my "fault", and you're not "'losing' anyone to 'me'" just because they like the fact that they can count on me to tell them exactly what my opinion is.
Another point> I'm blunt and honest with people, and most of the time, I require the same in return. I don't pick up signals. Yes, I'm a flirt. why? because it's just how Cuban's are. We're FRIENDLY. We're charismatic. So whenever I hear that I'm, well, "stringing <x> along" "leading <y> on", my response is always "wtf?" because, well, I don't. Whoever says that about me, doesn't know me, and didn't have the balls to actually approach me (I feel I'm a very approachable person!) and express their feelings, or ask me mine. I don't fucking toss empty lines at people, I'm just FRIENDLY and if someone takes that the wrong way, it's not my fault, and if they don't actually tell me anything, don't tell me that they prefer I act more conservatively around them, it's not my problem.
I will always honor anyone's wishes, respect their ideas and stances on anything, if they will take the time to reciprocate, and will actually take a minute to send me a tell, to talk to me and actually get things straight before saying crap that's going to just get back at me later.
To Moogle and Joey > I apologize you've been the receptacle of my dumping for the past few weeks, it's about time I just put it out in the open because I'm not going to deal with it for much longer. I appreciate that you still deal with my crap and it makes he happy that you trust me with your issues too.
When I joined this LS I thought I'd be in a friendlier environment, not this vicious circle of high school girls that share in-shell chat with outsiders, that don't really seem to enforce all the rules which should apply to every member in the shell, that rather just do what I've been doing and dump on others than actually ever resolve conflict. I believe Sozo's the only person that's actually sent me a tell, like "what's your problem?" and it really does make a difference, in my book. Hard to believe, eh? The 1 and only person that's reached out, who also happens to be vastly misunderstood.
I feel that it's condescending that I am expected to pick up certain things or take hints, that you all take it for granted that I'm on the same page about everything. I come from a very different culture and value system than a lot of the rest of you, and I can't be expected to know what you mean or what you feel or think by certain things you do or say. Which is why I say: be blunt. Just tell me what's on your mind. I always say what's on mine, and apparently it comes off to other people like I bitch too much, or come off strong.
/endrant.
Going by what others tell you is a retarded way of judging, especially when the other person acts like a damn victim about every shit thing that they did wrong and twist to make it like they were at 0% fault.
Yes this is a very angry post, but hey, I'm a very angry person today. And like I said, I'm sick of shit coming back to me from people, when I try as much as I can to be as honest and genuine as I can be, only to hear that people call me names or talk about me like I FORCE EVERY FUCKING MALE IN MY VICINITY TO ZOMG FALL TO MY EVIL CONNIVING WAYS.
Reality check > you can't force anybody to do anything. If someone happens to LIKE the fact that I don't bullshit, that's not my "fault", and you're not "'losing' anyone to 'me'" just because they like the fact that they can count on me to tell them exactly what my opinion is.
Another point> I'm blunt and honest with people, and most of the time, I require the same in return. I don't pick up signals. Yes, I'm a flirt. why? because it's just how Cuban's are. We're FRIENDLY. We're charismatic. So whenever I hear that I'm, well, "stringing <x> along" "leading <y> on", my response is always "wtf?" because, well, I don't. Whoever says that about me, doesn't know me, and didn't have the balls to actually approach me (I feel I'm a very approachable person!) and express their feelings, or ask me mine. I don't fucking toss empty lines at people, I'm just FRIENDLY and if someone takes that the wrong way, it's not my fault, and if they don't actually tell me anything, don't tell me that they prefer I act more conservatively around them, it's not my problem.
I will always honor anyone's wishes, respect their ideas and stances on anything, if they will take the time to reciprocate, and will actually take a minute to send me a tell, to talk to me and actually get things straight before saying crap that's going to just get back at me later.
To Moogle and Joey > I apologize you've been the receptacle of my dumping for the past few weeks, it's about time I just put it out in the open because I'm not going to deal with it for much longer. I appreciate that you still deal with my crap and it makes he happy that you trust me with your issues too.
When I joined this LS I thought I'd be in a friendlier environment, not this vicious circle of high school girls that share in-shell chat with outsiders, that don't really seem to enforce all the rules which should apply to every member in the shell, that rather just do what I've been doing and dump on others than actually ever resolve conflict. I believe Sozo's the only person that's actually sent me a tell, like "what's your problem?" and it really does make a difference, in my book. Hard to believe, eh? The 1 and only person that's reached out, who also happens to be vastly misunderstood.
I feel that it's condescending that I am expected to pick up certain things or take hints, that you all take it for granted that I'm on the same page about everything. I come from a very different culture and value system than a lot of the rest of you, and I can't be expected to know what you mean or what you feel or think by certain things you do or say. Which is why I say: be blunt. Just tell me what's on your mind. I always say what's on mine, and apparently it comes off to other people like I bitch too much, or come off strong.
/endrant.
