Hey all,
I wanted to write this out partly to process, and partly because I’m curious if others have felt something similar.
FFXIV has been my comfort game for a long time. It’s where I just exist. Over the years, I’ve made some really meaningful friendships, the kind that sneak up on you when you’re just running content or chatting at a market board. But lately, I’ve been realizing how transient this game can be.
FCs go quiet.
Friends move data centers for housing or irl reasons.
Groups shift, and suddenly the people you talked to every day are gone. And no, it's not because of drama (maybe it is sometimes), but mostly because life moved on.
None of this is anyone’s fault, and I know that intellectually. But emotionally, it’s been hard. I’m someone who values consistency and shared routines, and this game can be rough for that kind of attachment. Every time I finally settle in and feel at home with people, it changes. They move on or leave altogether for more reasons than I can count on one hand. I’ve learned a lot through it, though.
I’m still just here. Still crafting in Ishgard for years upon years, still haunting the market boards (we crash daily), still loving the game, and just learning how to belong without losing myself when things change.
I don’t really have a big question, I guess mostly just wondering:
Have any of you struggled with the revolving-door of friendships in this game?
How do you balance loss with protecting yourself?
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
TL;DR: My journey has been a mix of really meaningful friendships and a lot of unexpected goodbyes. I’ve learned that I’m someone who values consistency and that losing people hurts even when no one did anything wrong. I’m still just learning how to belong without losing myself.
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I wanted to write this out partly to process, and partly because I’m curious if others have felt something similar.
FFXIV has been my comfort game for a long time. It’s where I just exist. Over the years, I’ve made some really meaningful friendships, the kind that sneak up on you when you’re just running content or chatting at a market board. But lately, I’ve been realizing how transient this game can be.
FCs go quiet.
Friends move data centers for housing or irl reasons.
Groups shift, and suddenly the people you talked to every day are gone. And no, it's not because of drama (maybe it is sometimes), but mostly because life moved on.
None of this is anyone’s fault, and I know that intellectually. But emotionally, it’s been hard. I’m someone who values consistency and shared routines, and this game can be rough for that kind of attachment. Every time I finally settle in and feel at home with people, it changes. They move on or leave altogether for more reasons than I can count on one hand. I’ve learned a lot through it, though.
I’m still just here. Still crafting in Ishgard for years upon years, still haunting the market boards (we crash daily), still loving the game, and just learning how to belong without losing myself when things change.
I don’t really have a big question, I guess mostly just wondering:
Have any of you struggled with the revolving-door of friendships in this game?
How do you balance loss with protecting yourself?
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.
TL;DR: My journey has been a mix of really meaningful friendships and a lot of unexpected goodbyes. I’ve learned that I’m someone who values consistency and that losing people hurts even when no one did anything wrong. I’m still just learning how to belong without losing myself.
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