So this is my first post on Reddit, or any community platform really, and I'm not entirely sure what I'm doing. I apologize in advance if this is the wrong place, etc. I just don't know where to go to ask for advice.
I've been playing FF14 for a fair amount of time now. I started probably around the middle of Stormblood and have adored the game ever since. However, I live with depression and anxiety so the social aspect of the game, as well as the 'endgame content' has always scared me. I like the idea of tough fights, teamwork, and communication but when I try to put myself out there (really just in Party Finder) things tend to go wrong and that fear is reinforced. I do really want to raid and get things like mounts, equipment, and glamour, but I don't know how to overcome the giant hurdle of what I guess is finding people to do this content with and overcoming my fears of interacting with others. I have made one big success in this though. I completed my first raid,>! Memoria Misera EX!<, and it was a lot of stress, anxiety, and overall uneasiness. I also main Healer (I play WHM. I prefer AST but I'm far too clumsy to attempt raiding as it. And I'm a terrible SCH.) so it's more stressful.
I'm a fairly slow learner and not the brightest bulb in the box so waiting to find Party Finder groups for content I want to learn is difficult or sometimes impossible. Especially if the content is older and everyone already knows the fights. It means I don't get consistent practice and I forget what I'm doing if I do find a group. I've tried recruiting through Party Finder but it always falls apart, or it spirals down to where my anxiety forces me to leave (I know it's a terrible thing of me to do, and I feel awful for it).
I guess what I would like to know is, does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Should I attempt to find an actual raid group? Should I just keep trying to use Party Finder? Is there another option? I'm in an FC but I don't know anyone and reaching out to strangers is utterly terrifying. I also don't have any friends to play with so I'm doing this on my own which is also terrifying.
I apologize for the rambling post. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you
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I've been playing FF14 for a fair amount of time now. I started probably around the middle of Stormblood and have adored the game ever since. However, I live with depression and anxiety so the social aspect of the game, as well as the 'endgame content' has always scared me. I like the idea of tough fights, teamwork, and communication but when I try to put myself out there (really just in Party Finder) things tend to go wrong and that fear is reinforced. I do really want to raid and get things like mounts, equipment, and glamour, but I don't know how to overcome the giant hurdle of what I guess is finding people to do this content with and overcoming my fears of interacting with others. I have made one big success in this though. I completed my first raid,>! Memoria Misera EX!<, and it was a lot of stress, anxiety, and overall uneasiness. I also main Healer (I play WHM. I prefer AST but I'm far too clumsy to attempt raiding as it. And I'm a terrible SCH.) so it's more stressful.
I'm a fairly slow learner and not the brightest bulb in the box so waiting to find Party Finder groups for content I want to learn is difficult or sometimes impossible. Especially if the content is older and everyone already knows the fights. It means I don't get consistent practice and I forget what I'm doing if I do find a group. I've tried recruiting through Party Finder but it always falls apart, or it spirals down to where my anxiety forces me to leave (I know it's a terrible thing of me to do, and I feel awful for it).
I guess what I would like to know is, does anyone have any tips on how to overcome this? Should I attempt to find an actual raid group? Should I just keep trying to use Party Finder? Is there another option? I'm in an FC but I don't know anyone and reaching out to strangers is utterly terrifying. I also don't have any friends to play with so I'm doing this on my own which is also terrifying.
I apologize for the rambling post. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you
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