Stop Being So Sensitive in FFXIV Ultimates: A Reality Check
Let’s talk about something that wipes more parties than mechanics ever could: fragile egos.
You queue into an Ultimate thinking, “Alright, let’s prog, learn, improve.” But the moment someone says, “Hey, mitigation was missed,” half the party gets offended like they were personally insulted.
Grow up.
This is Ultimate content—not casual roulette, not a glam farm, not a place for soft feelings. This content is built to test you. It’s punishing, unforgiving, and demands execution, communication, and accountability. And yet, when someone offers constructive feedback, half the group responds with:
“That’s rude.”
“I didn’t ask.”
“Don’t be toxic.”
Let me be clear—pointing out a missed cooldown that led to a wipe isn’t toxic. It’s called raiding. If your Reprisal is late and we die to a raidwide, don’t act like being called on it is an act of war. That’s not harassment—it’s the truth.
If you can’t handle someone telling you what went wrong, you’re not ready for Ultimates.
Why Is This So Common?
Because people tie their self-worth to their performance. They don’t want to hear they did something wrong. They want praise for showing up—not feedback to help them grow. They act like being corrected is an attack on their personality instead of what it really is: a team effort to progress.
They’ll say:
“That’s just how I play.”
“You don’t need to coach me.”
“Let’s just pull.”
But the moment nobody says anything, and you keep wiping for the same reason—you complain about the group being bad. Which is it?
You want the weapon, the title, the clout, but none of the effort it takes to actually earn it. You expect clears while rejecting the process that leads to them. That's not confidence—that's delusion.
How to Actually Improve
If someone points something out, don’t get defensive—just listen.
If you mess up, own it. Fix it. Move on.
If a cooldown is mistimed, adjust. Don't argue.
Understand that feedback isn’t cruelty—it’s part of Ultimate raiding.
This isn’t about being mean. This is about being honest. And if your first reaction to feedback is to shut down, lash out, or accuse people of being toxic—you're actively holding the party back.
So Please—for Everyone’s Sanity
If you're joining an Ultimate PF, and you're working on mechanics that require coordination and timing—drop the ego. Accept the feedback. Make the adjustment. Say “thank you.” And pull again.
That’s how clears happen. That’s how you get better. That’s how teams succeed.
If you can't handle someone respectfully telling you to use your mitigation properly, then maybe—just maybe—Ultimate content isn’t what you thought it was.
Not everyone has to be a raid god.
But everyone should at least try to be worth bringing to the next pull.
Hehe… haha… wipe again, I dare you.
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Let’s talk about something that wipes more parties than mechanics ever could: fragile egos.
You queue into an Ultimate thinking, “Alright, let’s prog, learn, improve.” But the moment someone says, “Hey, mitigation was missed,” half the party gets offended like they were personally insulted.
Grow up.
This is Ultimate content—not casual roulette, not a glam farm, not a place for soft feelings. This content is built to test you. It’s punishing, unforgiving, and demands execution, communication, and accountability. And yet, when someone offers constructive feedback, half the group responds with:
“That’s rude.”
“I didn’t ask.”
“Don’t be toxic.”
Let me be clear—pointing out a missed cooldown that led to a wipe isn’t toxic. It’s called raiding. If your Reprisal is late and we die to a raidwide, don’t act like being called on it is an act of war. That’s not harassment—it’s the truth.
If you can’t handle someone telling you what went wrong, you’re not ready for Ultimates.
Why Is This So Common?
Because people tie their self-worth to their performance. They don’t want to hear they did something wrong. They want praise for showing up—not feedback to help them grow. They act like being corrected is an attack on their personality instead of what it really is: a team effort to progress.
They’ll say:
“That’s just how I play.”
“You don’t need to coach me.”
“Let’s just pull.”
But the moment nobody says anything, and you keep wiping for the same reason—you complain about the group being bad. Which is it?
You want the weapon, the title, the clout, but none of the effort it takes to actually earn it. You expect clears while rejecting the process that leads to them. That's not confidence—that's delusion.
How to Actually Improve
If someone points something out, don’t get defensive—just listen.
If you mess up, own it. Fix it. Move on.
If a cooldown is mistimed, adjust. Don't argue.
Understand that feedback isn’t cruelty—it’s part of Ultimate raiding.
This isn’t about being mean. This is about being honest. And if your first reaction to feedback is to shut down, lash out, or accuse people of being toxic—you're actively holding the party back.
So Please—for Everyone’s Sanity
If you're joining an Ultimate PF, and you're working on mechanics that require coordination and timing—drop the ego. Accept the feedback. Make the adjustment. Say “thank you.” And pull again.
That’s how clears happen. That’s how you get better. That’s how teams succeed.
If you can't handle someone respectfully telling you to use your mitigation properly, then maybe—just maybe—Ultimate content isn’t what you thought it was.
Not everyone has to be a raid god.
But everyone should at least try to be worth bringing to the next pull.
Hehe… haha… wipe again, I dare you.
Continue reading...